100 Phrases for Those Who Have Lost a Loved One
Reserved, Copyright (C) 1997,2000,Kei Nakahara
English Translation by TQByT
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1. Because you have taken on the sorrow, your loved one did not have to
go through this pain...
Where there are two
One must always leave another behind no matter how strong
their love may be.
When there are two loving people,
They are destined to
part someday yet only one must carry on with a burden of sorrow.
spared your loved one from going through the pain and sorrow you are going
2. Now, your loved one has escaped from
all worldly suffering...
Your loved one is
now free of all fetters,
And will no longer have to live through this
world's cruelty, misery,
distress, pain and hardship.
Perhaps your loved
one is at peace now,
Closer to God and angels.
3. Your loved one's kindness and warmth lives on in
When you think of your loved
Doesn't it remind you of all the warm memories he or she has left behind
Like those caring words and kind acts ?
When your loved one was
There must have been times when you two had fights,
And thought the
person was a nuisance.
But now a proud citizen of the Heavenly City,
loved one is showering people with nothing but dear memories from up
This is how your heart becomes filled with his or her precious, joyous
Your loved one's kindness and warmth lives on in
4. Are these tears for your loved one, or
for yourself ?
If tears you shed are meant
for your loved one,
Cry until you can cry no more;
They are beautiful
If tears you shed are cried for yourself,
They are ugly and
Do not mix beautiful tears with selfish
5. Cry like pouring rain when sadness
takes you over.
Instead of straining to keep a facade of peace,
until tears run dry...
Cry, cry and
Tears are there to protect your heart.
When tears finally run dry,
your heart will be calm and quiet.
Feeling clear inside,
You will be left
with the transpicuous sense of being blessed with life.
So, look for
beautiful things around you,
And you will find a hope, a hope to move
Proof that you loved that person
Can it be
helped that the wound of losing that person hurts you greatly?
streaming from the wound instead of blood?
This unrelenting pain is probably
eating you away inside.
The cry of pain has probably become a wail.
long as you are you, you will have this pain in your heart.
However, and this
is important, in time you can get accustomed to this pain.
This pain is proof
that you are you.
This pain is proof that you loved that person.
the pain as pain, and live through it.
Of course, you need not follow
after your loved one to prove the depth of your love.
The proof is in your
6. The more sorrow you go through, the
kinder you become...
These are the tears of
At the least, you have learned the pain of losing a loved
Now, when others are feeling the same sorrow,
You have the capacity
to help, and understand their pain.
you can gain by experiencing the hardships of losing someone you
Sadness and suffering make people
A happy, worry-free life will only create a child trapped in a man's
Sadness and suffering will follow us as long as we live -
you can no longer feel these emotions, it's a sign that you have
growing as a person.
Sadness and suffering enable us to be strong enough
to be kind to others.
Deepest sorrow, strongest love...
loved someone so much,
And now, you are feeling so much sadness.
If you are capable of giving love so pure, so deep,
You will be able to
9. Your loved one must have wanted you to
live the happiest life you could ever live...
Would he or she want to see you so lonely, so sad for so long?
let your loved one worry in heaven.
Do not blame
Every survivor feels a great
burden and restlessness
because they continue to live although their loved
And, it is not rare that this feeling turns to unwarranted
The truth is, many people continue to blame themselves for
the smallest things they did or did not do immediately
before the death of
their loved one.
However, the reasons are almost always subjective.
Surely, if they really had been wrong, they would be receiving
punishment from society. They are thinking too little
about that person and
too much about their own failure.
Only unless you live like a saint can
you live without regrets.
Please, do not blame
10. Your contribution was simply being
How happy and fortunate your loved
one must have felt to be with you.
Your existence must have meant so much to
his or her life.
So stop looking back,
Don't be swayed by hindsights, just
let go of little regrets.
not think of going after your loved one...
You must not make others go through this sorrow.
As long as there is
someone who will be saddened by your death,
Do not even consider taking your
own life -
It may let you escape from the sorrow you are feeling now,
But it will bring the burden upon someone new who loves you.
not belong just to you.
Although you have lost an irreplaceable love, you and your life can bring a new
life into this world...
If you are able to
have a child,
You can bring a new life into this world -
have already gone through this joyous process.
You maybe grieving over losing
a close love,
But don't forget that you have the ability to create a new
And even if you cannot have a child, you can still create a love.
That's just as good as having a child.
Look at a child. Just like you, a child is always crying.
you, a child soon smiles after crying.
Even though a sad thing happens to a
child, a child does not continue to cry forever.
A child is not troubled by
the past and does not feel sorrow for the future.
A child is like a free and
A child simply thinks only about living.
simply loves and receives love.
You were a child once.
When it seems like
you will be crushed by sorrow,
remember that you once existed in complete
13. Think of loving others if you want to
Think of loving, and not of
If there is someone who is in more pain and sorrow than you
Give him or her your loving hand and warm support...
You have the
ability to comfort others.
when your feelings are all jumbled up...
until tears run dry.
And when you are tired from crying, sleep.
lets you escape from the reality.
Emotional wounds that are eating you up
Will be gently healed away while you are
15. If you feel as though your heart is
filled with shattered pieces of glass,
And there is nothing you can do to
restore the peace of mind.
Just eat and
These are the basic activities that help you stabilize your
16. When the shock is so great that you
can cry no more.
Think of something sad that
brings tears to your eyes.
Crying will relieve your heart of stresses, and
ease your sorrow.
you are stuck in indolence yet feeling stressed out.
You are suffering from the poisonous effects of self-disgust caused by
your own idleness.
Get up, and move around,
Moving around in the house may
not be much fun -
Why not try going out ?
The fresh air should aid you
in cheering up your spirits.
Winter is always followed by spring...
is night and day,
There is winter and spring.
The seasons change,
this sorrow will not last forever.
Adapting to the situation, conquering the sadness...
Don't forget that people have a remarkable
ability to adapt,
And get used to any adversities.
Though you may feel
that your sorrow may last forever,
You will get over it.
Just believe in
your future even if you are experiencing difficult times now,
The pain will
Everything will be fine again.
meaning of tears...
There are tears of
There are tears of joy.
Tears are the signs of peak states of
They are the sparkling reflections of one's life.
when we touch upon the deepest truth within our souls,
They are the proof of
They are the proof that you are
21. Do not take your own life to make up
for accidentally taking a loved one's life...
you die, your family and friends will be the ones burdened with sorrow.
for those who are to suffer through the death of two people,
The tragedy they
have to go through will be worse than the one you are going through.
should be painfully aware of the sadness the death of a person can
Dying is an easy way out yet it is a choice that should never be
Even if you believe out of moral obligation that you should
There is no morally correct death as long as your death causes more
The more the body is damaged in
an accident, the shorter the time victim has suffered.
Besides, the body is
programmed to pass out once pain reaches a certain level.
It is likely
that your loved one did not have to feel as much pain as you may think.
least, he or she is now in a world where neither pain nor suffering
Was your meeting with your loved one
a meeting of fate?
Was it fate that only your meeting with that person and no
other would mature into true love?
And, was that persons death some kind of
If your meeting with that person was a meeting of fate, this sad
separation is probably also fate.
It may well be that everything was
predetermined from the day you were born until the day you die.
meeting, and even your separation.
If there is such a thing as fate, then
it was the fate of you and your loved one.
---- You will feel more
comfortable if you think so.
No one, including you, is to blame for the
occurrence of this death.
Sorrow is the expression of love itself...
When you are faced with a fate so brutal,
You may blame yourself, or
someone else, to deny reality,
And your heart may become filled with hatred
But when you cry, do not hate anyone.
Sorrow is the
expression of love itself,
But hate opposes love.
Why not only give
Someone once said,
"If I can
save one person from the depths of sorrow, my life is not meaningless."
Through this pain, you have now become someone who understands others'
You have grown stronger through the death of your loved
25. The world is a cruel and merciless
place, but your heart that cries for another's death is
You are a warm person.
feeling so much sorrow because of the depth of your love.
Even if this world
is a cruel and merciless place, your heart is not...
The more loving and
caring you are, the more grief-stricken you will be,
But the tears you shed
will never be wasted,
Every teardrop is the source of strength that makes you
kinder to others.
heals wounds of lost love...
Your friends and
family must be concerned about your well-being.
Try and focus on their love
that surrounds you,
And be aware of those who care about you.
love of family,
There is love of friends.
And even if you are all
alone in this world,
You are blessed by love of your loved one who is now in
27. You have learned about the
preciousness of life through this pain...
Through the death of your loved one,
You have learned the true value
Through his or her own death,
Your loved one has taught
That there are so many who cry and suffer
When their loved ones
28. What has not been lost...
Paying too much attention to what you have
You would neglect what you have now.
It is unfortunate that we
often do not realize
What we have until we lose them.
Take a good look
And you will recognize many things that have not been
you can do?
For the sake of that special
person, give that person the gift of living your own life at least one day
29. Look for beautiful
Although fate is a cruel
There is much love and beauty still left in this world -
It is not
such a bad place to live after all.
When your eyes are all dried up
you can cry no more,
You are there face to face with life.
your senses are cleansed of all worldly filth.
That's when you start seeing a
whole new meaning in everything you encounter.
Look for beautiful things,
And you will find something.
Listen to sad songs when you are down.
will lift your spirits.
Sad movies, stories and poems are also
your heart feels hollow and empty inside, keep yourself
You should cry when you are
But when emptiness is all your heart can feel,
Move around and keep yourself busy.
32. When tears don't fall, do not lie down...
When you lie down,
And when your body stops all its movements,
consciousness will creep deep into your thoughts.
"I do not want to live
anymore. I do not want to do anything..."
Whenever laziness arises, try to
Let's start with laundry and cleaning up your room,
You will be
surprised how it helps you forget your sorrow.
33. Bathing is the best medicine for
If you are feeling
Take a bath and relax.
It blows away all your minor blues,
your heart becomes more susceptible.
Do not waste this revitalized moment
aimlessly staring at TV;
Get yourself absorbed in your favorite
34. For those who say they have no
friends to talk to...
How about getting a
If dogs or cats require too much care and attention,
small birds are fairly easy to care for.
Pets may not understand your words
But they provide unconditional love,
And express life's joy through their
They play an important role in bringing out your
35. Plant seeds and nurture
Caring for plants enables you to
see and enjoy their daily growth.
Water them, and you'll see them silently
live and transform.
And when they flower, there will be peace in your
Your daily care will result in brilliantly colored flowers,
seeds for more flowers.
Flowers are the reflections of our life,
are the souls of our children.
As you watch a flower grow, live and
You will see yourself in the same life cycle.
A new sprout that is
delicate and full of life...
A young stem that shoots into the
Securing its roots and opening its leaves wide, it grows and grows and
A new bud that glows with an anticipation for a bright
A blossoming flower that is shining with colors of
Finding a partner to pollinate, it creates another
There is a period to save its energy of life,
There is a
period to let it all flourish,
And there is a moment to stop it all and
return to earth...
If even a simple plant has so much to live, so much to
Then your life must have so much more to live, so much more to
So, don't just stand still in sorrow;
Watch and learn from nature
which lives to grow.
Balancing your heart and emotions...
very sensitive people experience a great tragedy,
It causes their hearts to
lose emotional stability.
You may be having a trouble distinguishing
dreams from reality,
You may be hearing imaginary voices talking in your
And you may be feeling a fear of uncertainty that now surrounds your
But you must not worry; there are many modern cures and treatments
that quickly and easily heal your emotional malady.
Try to throw away all
your needless anxieties,
Give your heart some room to relax.
You will be
37. Seek a counselor if you are feeling
Simply opening up your heart
to a counselor
Will help you unload emotional burden off of your
It will calm you down.
Do not suffer all by yourself.
to someone, and allow your heart to depend on others.
38. Put on your favorite clothes and go
Take your time,
Go ahead and
indulge yourself to look your best.
Put on your favorite clothes,
out into town.
If you are a man, do the same...
Wrapped in your
Feeling as good as you look,
And walk through streets and
It is said to do more for your vitality than any therapist
Take my word for it and give it a try,
39. When your heart feels deserted and
irritated, find something to get involved in...
There are only so many conditions that guarantee happiness -
surrounded by love,
Or be involved in something that keeps your mind
Find a goal to dedicate your time and
are you alive?
Why am I alive? Your heart is
captured in despair and it probably has become a habit for you to lament these
But these words are very important keywords for opening the door
to your heart.
Aren't they wonderful words? Ask yourself for the first
Why are you alive? What can you do to attain true satisfaction?
really is important in your life?
Now, you desire to open the door to
Each whisper after whisper will slowly and steadily open the heavy
Over there is the life you want to make.
Important answers do
not come soon. Do not hurry.
Even if you have lost all
From the shock of losing a loved one,
You must not quit
Even if you feel like there's a hole in your broken heart,
even if you find yourself crying to and from work everyday,
You must not quit
the job you have so faithfully kept for so long.
The positive pressures
Caring colleagues and loving friends...
These are the things
you need to overcome grief this deep,
These are the things that keep you away
from feeling this sorrow.
This is your opportunity to learn about social
Responsibility of controlling your sorrow to avoid making
others worry about you.
are alive, here and now...
Your body may be
feeling like it's being torn apart,
Your heart may be feeling an endless
Your mind may be withstanding sadness words could never
You maybe feeling like you are falling from the sky,
feeling loneliness of being trapped in a blizzard,
You maybe feeling so much
guilt that you'd rather take your own life away.
God has created the
past, present, and future
So that we can always find a way to escape from
the deepest sorrow.
You are alive, here and now.
42. In the depths of sorrow...
in the darkest depths of despair ?
If you are, then you have no more sorrow
Only the good awaits you ahead,
All you have to do is stop
43. No matter how deep your sorrow is,
the memories of your loved one will fade away...
Like a castle in the sand
Being washed away little by little by ocean
Your sorrow will fade away in time.
And memories of your loved
Just like a castle in the sand,
Will not last forever no matter how
much you treasure them.
After all, it's only a castle in the
Blown in the wind and rain,
It returns to the sea.
44. In the world of darkness where
everything has lost its color...
have been thrown into the world of darkness
Where everything you once
enjoyed and cherished has lost its color.
Yet you must believe that in the
still of darkness comes the dawn,
And when the cold mist of emptiness is
There will be bright rays of warm sun shining upon you once
45. Comfort your own
If there was someone who is sad and
Wouldn't you offer words of encouragement and comfort ?
In the same
Be gentle to yourself and comfort your own soul.
You know better than
anyone else about this pain in your heart,
You have seen so many long, crying
But you should know what makes you feel better and strong.
have given all your love, and you have been left with a sorrow;
your own soul,
And think of giving yourself the love and kindness you
46. We must all pursue
To be happy, everyone must
overcome many walls of sadness and suffering.
It is our responsibility to
pursue our own happiness - live and be happy.
47. A child unborn...
So the child
never had a chance to see your face,
And never had a chance to be held in
But the child spent an entire life with you, within you.
child has lived and died blessed by you and your
48. Children who died young have become
angels in Heaven...
Childlike innocence, pure
expression of love and righteousness.
These are some of the characteristics
we lose as we grow up and get older.
Children who died young have been chosen
to be near God as angels
Without ever losing their purity through the
ugliness of reality.
They have died never having have to experience the
hardships of life.
The lives they led must have been happy ones.
Children who died young are the owners of shining souls.
little to learn from this world.
When a loved one is
You'd look for his or her image in everything that you see,
everything that's within you like your dreams.
You'd see your loved one full
of youth and energy,
An exact image of how you'd like to see your loved one
When you lose your parents,
There will always be someone who
reflects the images of your parents,
Someone who is young and alive.
that someone is...
Friends of your mother,
Relatives of your
They will search images of your parents in you.
For them, you are
the one that keeps your parents alive in their dreams.
You have been
brought into this world through your parents' love and affection.
the deepest relationship with your parents.
You have inherited much of your
parents' spiritual existence and physical traits.
You are the regeneration of
your dear parents.
You must get over this pain and shine brighter than
the river flows, life flows...
Look at a
And see them all, young and old, men and women.
them 100 years from now.
Most of them would be dead and gone,
Yet on the
same street 100 years from now,
There will be people from all walks of life
It's business as usual.
There are as many deaths as
there are births,
People live and people die...
We all live and we all
Those who walk on this street 100 years from now,
They are all
children of our generation.
As the river flows, life flows.
51. Your loved one has been reunited with nature where life
Before there was life on
There was land, there was ocean, and there was air
From which all
living things were born.
Your loved one has gone back to where we all once
52. The law of
Flowers blossom, then leave seeds
As seasons change, flowers will return.
People are born, then
raise children and die.
That's how life is,
Inherited from one generation
This is called the law of nature.
Your parents have lived
and died according to the law of nature,
They have left a precious life
called "you" here in this world.
Now, it is your turn to carry on with the
life your parents have given you,
And let it live on in your
Life flows as one long river.
Everything tangible will eventually perish...
All living things are destined to die.
All of us are destined to leave
this world someday.
Death is not an accident; it's an inevitable consequence
that happens to us all.
The only difference is whether your loved one dies
before you or after you.
loved one wouldn't have wished to watch you suffer like this...
No matter how much you cry, your loved one is
not coming back.
No matter how sad you are, your loved one is no longer
Every life has its share of reality that won't let you go.
imagine what your loved one would say to you now if he or she were
Your loved one wouldn't have wished to watch you suffer like
So stop crying,
Stop feeling sad.
If your loved one is alive in
Then you must hear the voice whispering in your heart,
don't cry so much..."
When you can no longer sense the presence of the
loved one within you,
You may be losing him or her forever from being in your
Don't let it happen,
You must keep straining your ears to hear the
voice that lives on in you.
After the tears have dried, think
quietly of that person.
Do not discriminate considerations, do not judge what
should have been done,
and just imagine that person's face and figure.
that time, do not speak any words, and just watch that person.
will surely give you the gift of quietly watching you in return.
existence of that person in the silence.
At that time, without relying on
words, you will receive that person's thoughts.
55. Death may be the most desirable thing of
Socrates once said,
"For the ones
who are left behind, death is a sad and painful event. But
for those who
died, death may be the best thing that has ever happened to
56. Since crying will not bring them
Where did we come from?
we go from here ?
Has your loved one acquired eternal life and is living
happily in Heaven ?
Or has your loved one simply disappeared from this world
In the midst of all these questions, there is one thing that is
No matter how many tears you shed,
The person you are longing for
will not return.
But you are here now and you are alive.
Will you live
your life to fulfill your own dreams as well as your loved one's
57. Heaven and
All those people who are no longer
here with us,
Where have they gone ?
They have gone to Heaven, not to
Don't you worry,
How would someone who has been loved by you so much
Ever fall to darkness ?
One can never know what will
happen in a person's life.
The future is uncertain,
And there is nothing
you can be sure of
Except that we are all going to die one
59. Think about
Facing death could result in a
Do not take anything for granted,
And ask yourself a serious
"What am I living for ?"
"What is the purpose of my life
Think and you will know the true meaning of your
60. Time is the essence of
Life is made of time.
death of your loved one irradiated a time in your life
Like flashes of
Sooner or later, you will die too.
Isn't there anything you
would like to do before your time is up ?
You, like everyone else, only have
Because we'll all die eventually,
We are all death row
inmates, they say.
The death of your loved one must've shed a new light on
Don't waste what you have realized through the light,
waste the time you have.
To you who are down and in
Sorrow and pain only affirm the
depth of your love.
Suffering and loss only affirm your devotion to
If you confront these emotions head on, your body and heart may
At times, everything may become intolerable.
now living helplessly dreaming your life away?
Do you think you can no longer
start your own life over?
That is not so. As long as you are yourself and
you feel discontent in your life,
you can start over. As long as you
continue to judge yourself this way so highly
in your heart, you are really
the same as you were in the past.
Empower your real
61. Laugh, don't
Those around you do not want to see
They all want to see smiles on your face,
They are all concerned
Don't cry, smile...
For yourself, for those who love
62. Everyone carries the burden of
Many of the people living in this
The sadness of losing someone they love.
They have all
overcome a grief to live a normal life.
When you are surrounded by
It may seem easy to feel that every sadness everywhere
falling upon your shoulders,
But remember -
Within every heart,
is loneliness, sadness, and sorrow.
gift for your loved one who's in Heaven...
People are amazing
Even when your life is full of so
much sorrow that you wake up crying every morning,
You still have the ability
to laugh and talk and act cheerfully while in the presence of others.
relieves everyone of worrying about you,
It allows you to have a moment of
Crying every day, laughing every day,
Either way it's your
But your loved one wants you to live a happy life...
all the good things your loved one would have enjoyed.
You'll have tales to
tell when you see him or her again
When you are in Heaven.
64. Death is
In the vastness of the
Human life is like a blink of an unknown star.
To live and to
It is one destiny all living things must accept.
Some live long, some
You may resent God for taking your loved one away.
The longer the person lives,
The more sorrow he or she must
The longer the person lives,
The more deaths of loved ones he or
she must encounter.
Death is unbiased...
65. Death after a long illness, or death without a
Your loved one may have fought,
And lost the fight of his or her life,
Or may have been involved in an
And died a sudden death.
Those who passed away after a
They have left this world
Surrounded by, in return for
accepting prolonged pain and suffering,
Love of family, love of friends, and
love of you.
Those who died without a warning,
They have left this
Before having time to wince over thoughts of leaving their loved ones
They only had to feel the pain for the flash of a
Could it be that your loved one's death, while it is your
Is not the only cruel death recorded in human
66. Live each and every moment to the
"I shouldn't have said
"I should've been kinder and more considerate..."
that's when you are more apt to weep.
As you reflect upon the relationship
you had with your loved one,
Your soul is purified, your sins repented
You will learn through the death of your loved one
What an ideal
relationship is all about.
Everything in life has a meaning...
in life goes wasted,
Even this grief you are going through now
become a big step that takes you closer to the true meanings of life.
of it this way -
These tears, they flow to mend your broken heart and
cleanse your spirit,
And this sorrow, it shows you the preciousness of
This suffering is to help you become someone who understands the pain
in others' hearts.
Flowers in winter...
There are flowers that
blossom in harsh, cold winter.
Why do flowers bloom ?
No, there is no
reason, they bloom because they live.
They don't wilt and die just because
You must be feeling like your will to live has been uprooted by
But like flowers in winter,
Why not live to live
Being kind and peaceful to people...
you think you should be kind and peaceful to everyone?
Don't you think you
want to live from now on without hurting anyone?
If that is how you feel,
you also must not hurt yourself.
You do not have the right to hurt
69. From time to time, you must wash dirt
away from your heart...
Heart does not come
with an owner's manual,
But, once in a while, it needs to be cleaned and
It should stay free of dirt called stress.
You must learn the
different ways to shine your heart -
Even on a day when it's pouring
You must not forget to wash your heart.
70. Sorrow is the sign of a new life...
Pain lets you know when there is something wrong with your body.
there is a pain in your heart, it is called "sadness"
After losing a love it
had, your heart is begging for more love.
Pain is so intense, it makes you
It reminds you the importance of love you had,
It is the sign that
you need a new love, a new life...
Giving up is the scariest thing to do...
Someone once said,
"Encountering life's hardships, being betrayed by
someone you trusted,
feeling pain in your heart, suffering from sorrow...
None of these is more scary than giving up because there is no future once you
Sadness may put a lock on your heart,
But don't let it make
you give up on your life.
Even so, continue to
Not matter how down and out you are,
you have no other choice but to continue living.
Anyway you think of it,
dying is even more terrible than living
and dying scatters the pain of loss
that inflicts a destructive and damaging
influence on all survivors.
It does not matter if you are paralyzed or depressed.
It is said
that starting from the beginning of your life there will be years
must throw away. The true value of people shines because they can
No matter whether you are sad twenty four hours a day, it is not
Observe and find the small things that make you glad in everyday
Happiness is around you.
one dies a death, it is like sleeping...
Death never existed for those who have passed away
Because they died
before they ever felt death.
It is like sleeping...
Like you never
remember the moment you fall asleep...
They may have gone through pain and
fear moments before they died,
But now, they are asleep,
Asleep in peace
Life is like a dream.
A dream is not a dream
74. Facing death, we drop our masks and
become who we are...
You'd become soaked in
You'd cry like a small child,
You'd ask for forgiveness with all
You'd speak out your love with all sincerity,
You'd face death
and realize the true meaning of your existence...
That's when you'd find
yourself in a deeper state of mind,
No longer hiding behind a mask.
75. True art is a creation of extreme
Art that moves people,
by the deep and pure soul,
Created through the eyes that have seen many
people, many lives,
Created through all that pain, all that suffering,
through sheer desperation,
True art is a creation of extreme
Art that moves people,
It is the direct result of one's true
desires and longings.
Every path one's soul has taken,
It is all etched on
the face of art that moves people.
"I love you","Thank you","I am
Perhaps these are the words
You wish you had said more often to
your loved one
While he or she was still alive.
And now you are blaming
There is no relationship with perfect communication,
your loved one must have been aware somehow
That you had always wanted to
say these words.
Even if you were able to say all the words
you wish you had said,
You would have felt the same sadness.
(and unsuccessful) communication,
It does not alter the sincerity and depth
of your love,
Nor the way your loved one cares about you.
Although none of
us is perfect,
We are all blessed by the sea of love that lies between us,
It allows us to, without saying a word,
Sail and reach each
78. Your loved one has attained
Like the earth that travels
around the sun and through the heavens,
Like the oceans that cover the
Like the breeze across the ocean,
Your loved one has become forever
a part of nature -
He or she has completed life on this planet,
lives in the spiritual world
Where everything is clear as spring water,
Where there is no suffering, sorrow or desires.
If it had been you who
The grief would have been just as intolerable for your loved one
As it has been for you.
person your loved one cherished...
We are all
born into this world alone, and die alone.
But there is something wonderful
between the cradle and the grave;
Like sharing life with others, like
learning how to love...
Ever since the moment you were born,
been living your life to be you.
You are the result of your own
You are the result of your own creation.
You are also the
result of your relationship with your loved one.
Just as he or she was a part
You were a part of him or her.
There is only one "you" that
your loved one ever loved.
Just like the way he or she cherished you,
must cherish your own life
Because you are the person your loved one has so
81. The value of
What else do you wish besides having
your loved one back and alive ?
Cars and high-rise condos and diamonds...?
No, no, no,
You must have lost all your materialistic desires.
must have prayed to God
Asking him to take your life away and bring your
loved one back to life.
What is the most important thing in life ?
Your loved one's life, your life, and every
82. For those who have lost a source of
So you have lost your loved
So you have lost your faith in religion,
Now there is no one to
And you only feel loneliness.
So you are wondering why
your loved one had to die,
So you are blaming God for putting you through
Now you grieve and say, "There is no God !"
And start asking
yourself questions about living and loving -
"Will I ever love someone again
and go through this pain again ?"
"Why love if it's lost again ? What is love
These are the questions that bring you closer to God, and
You are thinking as hard as never before
About God, life, death
What used to be abstruct in your life,
They are now
This is the test to see how you handle life
And how you react to
Soon, you will realize that you have grown inside, and your world has
That's when you'll have your own answer to each
Compared with the pain in this heart...
is no longer anything you are afraid of in this world.
Even inevitable death
is no longer a subject of your fear.
Sickness and physical pain are not
intolerable when compared with
the pain of losing that person. How much is
the sorrow of a broken heart
when compared with the sorrow over the death of
Because, even though you were betrayed, that person is still
in this world.
Torment and confusion at work are nothing
compared to the cruelty of losing that person.
You who have overcome the
most excruciatingly painful trial of all can easily overcome any
You have been granted true bravery and great patience in exchange
for your sorrow and pain.
These are realized in depth proportional to the
sorrow and pain,
and these are gifts from that person.
There is no
longer anything in this world you are afraid of.
Spend the rest of your life
fulfilling the needs of your spirit.
Without death, there would be no birth, without breaking up, there would be no
As there is light and there is
There is life and there is death.
As there is no one-sided coin,
Everything has another side.
Without breaking up, there would be no
Without sadness of losing a loved one, there would be no joy for the
birth of a new life.
In our life only so long, we are given light and shadow,
and we learn to color them.
Without death, there would be no birth,
Without breaking up, there would be no love...
We live in a world of
two opposing values.
When the pain is gone and the
sorrow has turned into memories,
You have then experienced the death and the
rebirth of love.
You have then learned about love's light and love's
Your love will be deeper,
Your life will be more
You have overcome hardships of living,
You have been
You have a choice between light and
You choose shadow, there will be no more broken hearts, but it's a
You are sad because you want love,
You are lonely because
you need the light.
Be strong, live the life you have always dreamed of
Look into the bottom of your soul and find what you really need.
Repentance is not death.
is living, confronting, and enduring.
Repentance is not for
It is a problem of your own heart.
Eventually, the day will
come when you can quietly forgive yourself.
Surely, at that time, you will
sense that the light is radiant,
the wind is calm, and the flowers are
----The storm has passed.
86. Your loved one has simply become
At the end of the day,
sun will fade and everything becomes one big shadow.
But the sun did not
It has simply gone to the other side of the earth.
There, the sun is
shining and giving light and warmth upon every blessed soul.
Your loved one,
just like the sun, has simply become invisible to your eyes.
There is a world
which we cannot see.
may be no God, but you can choose to be an angel...
What do all these tragedies happening around the world mean ?
times, you can't help but think there is no God.
Most of all, why did your
loved one have to die ?
Is this world only full of confusion and cruelty ?
Go ahead and cry out loud, "There is no God."
You don't need God who
created the world
Where misfortune falls on the poor.
that it is your grief that represents the love, kindness and righteousness in
And that you have the ability to change the world, little by
You cannot make someone live again,
But you can help starving
children with charity,
You can save them from dying,
You can save their
mothers from crying.
Here in this world, you are an angel.
Let's just say there is God and an
And you will be able to see your loved one once you are
If this were true, and everyone knew about it,
Then too many of us
would choose to take our own lives.
If you were God,
You would hide
this truth from people
So that no one would commit suicide,
So that your
purpose for creating people would not be abandoned.
Let me tell you one
You will see your loved one again
Because a true love never
As long as you overcome your sorrow,
And live your life to the