(i) By the way the you, the FORGIVER, feel.
(ii) By looking at your hand-writing. At times there is a marked difference between the handwriting of the forgiver when samples of the handwriting from the beginning and the end of the process are compared.
(iii) By the GUIDE, if there is one, muscle-testing you the FORGIVER as you say the phrases:
"I love myself. I love my body. I love my emotional nature. I love my mind."
"I love life. Life is a celebration!"
"I love what I do" (meaning "I can put Love into whatever I do.")
and finding how much the muscle power has increased.
(iv) You may often find that after a Self-forgiveness Process the Forgiveness has overflowed into many of the other relationships as demonstrated by the muscle-testing
If you do not feel that the process is complete, ask internally - what is missing? What else do I need to do?
Usually the answer will come to you quite quickly. It may be that only one particular incident has been omitted, and it comes to mind now. Process it.
IF YOU GET "STUCK", OR A PARTICULAR PROCESS SEEMS INCOMPLETE:
1. CHECK YOUR WILLINGNESS TO RECEIVE: It may be that you are unwilling to receive the forgiveness - in which case you can ask forgiveness for being unwilling to receive the forgiveness! It is amazing what may be revealed to you as you process this and discover and heal the source of this.
2. CHECK ALL THE DETAILS IN YOUR NOTES. YOU ALMOST CERTAINLY WILL NEED TO USE THE "FORGIVENESS OF OTHERS" PROCESS AS WELL
It may be that there is someone else you need to forgive. Often I have witnessed someone starting out to do a forgiveness of self which only became complete when a forgiveness of another (usually an authority figure who betrayed them) was also carried out.
3. REVIEW THE SECTION ON OVERCOMING OBSTACLES. Link here to go to Overcoming Obstacles to the Forgiveness Process
Forgiveness of self and forgiveness of others weave a tapestry together. As you weave these two, eventually you will complete your whole forgiveness agenda.
FORGIVER, REFLECT, AND THEN COMPLETE THE SENTENCE:
|"THE LEARNING FOR ME IN ALL THIS HAS BEEN......"|
FORGIVER THEN FINALISE THE PROCESS BY SAYING OR WRITING:
|" I WILL to keep this change in me intact."|
The process is now complete. You affirm your intention to keep this new pattern, and energy will follow your thought. Naturally, things may happen in the future which you regret and may need to process, but the subsequent ones will be much easier and shorter than your first one.
This process is excellent to do at regular intervals - again it is really a matter of regular emotional and mental housecleaning. Residue in the form of regrets and negative beliefs accumulate over time and block our love for self and others. The SOONER they are removed from our systems the less toxic damage they will do.
Eventually you will find that the skills listed here as separate items will become second nature and flow easily, almost in your unconscious mind, just as any routine skill, like brushing your teeth, combing your hair... All you have to do is give it your attention once in a while.
Link here to go to Overcoming Obstacles during the Forgiveness Processes
Link here to go to Self-Forgiveness Process Summarised
Link here to go to Patterns of Unconditional Love in Action - The Goodwill Patterns
Link here to go to Role of Guide and Guiding Skills
Link here to go to Where to from now? Follow up actions
Link here to go to References and Further Resources
Link here to return to Forgiveness Programme - Contents